[Mike]

Thanks Amanda

[Mike]

Unfortunately,
As children we are taking seriously our parents’ “non-love”. These real “non-love” incidents should be carefully examined as they determine our way of responding in similar situations later in life. I believe that you are ready to accept the positive if reconciliation has been preceded.

[Mike]

Is a selfish parent a loving parent? In that respect, is the idealization of our parents a good thing for our personal development? Is there a better way to deal with these issues? Accepting our parents is a very important and crucial step in our development. The question is how we get there? Is it through the oppression of our feelings or is it through the work with ourselves (facing, accepting ourselves first)? If we can’t accept ourselves how can we accept our parents? Or the other people?

[Mike]

Dear Pete,

My view is that it’s important to understand why someone has become the person who she/he is. Then, we are free to make  better choices

Nevertheless, what people want to achieve or experience in their lives and what makes them happy is far too personal and quite time-consuming to discuss it here

You probably know better for yourself than I know and that’s fair

 

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