Making decisions by listening to our hearts
I have noticed that I feel sadder and more discouraged when I am not listening to my heart, than when I fail to achieve a goal or make a mistake.
For example, when I set “boundaries”, although I don’t feel like it. When I justify my responses because it was convenient. When I am persuaded to follow a certain path because this is how other people “succeed”. When I act to impress without feeling impressive, or when I say no while I mean yes. If I forgive people, even though I haven’t truly forgiven them. Or, despite philosophizing that “in life you cannot have it all”, such a statement may not resonate with me.
Listening to our hearts and decision making
Intuition (direct knowledge) plays a key role in decision-making. It is pure and clear because it is not filtered. Exists for a reason. It appears to be bigger than logic, or knowledge since there are not always recipes for making successful data-based choices. It is especially true when considering the complexities of human behavior. My realization is that listening to our hearts is not as foolish as we think, rather, it is being in tune with ourselves. The majority of us lack access to our intuition. Consequently, decisions are not fully informed. In other cases, we have access, but choose not to pay attention because it requires us to go beyond our comfort zone.
It’s like lying to ourselves if we ignore or don’t acknowledge our hearts. Although not always, sometimes we use our minds to silence or deny something that it is at least 100% authentic, and an indication that something positive or negative requires attention (not necessarily action).
How lying to ourselves may affect us?
In situations where we lie to ourselves (when we deliberately shut down our hearts), we actually go against our true wishes, needs, and desires. Denying our senses is an act of asserting to the contrary, contradicting. Lying to ourselves is the refusal to accept or acknowledge. So how can we benefit from that? We can learn from making mistakes, but we aren’t able to obtain any understanding from lying.
One of our first articles on SHARE Lv, published in 2018, explains how denial of our thoughts and feelings may take us away from what we really want and need.
For access Contact us here, in reference to Denial.
Georgiadi, E. (2018). Denial: how to overcome an obstacle to happiness and fulfilment
IMPORTANT: It needs a lot of work with ourselves to be able to make a clear distinction between reactivity, impulsivity, and authenticity. This is harder than many people think. Stay tuned.
TIP: Intuition goes beyond any mental or emotional information. It’s more about making authentic choices.
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Ad Minoliti: G.S.F.C. #3, 2017
Related articles on SHARE Lv
Georgiadi, E. (2018). Criticism, Confidence, and Self Development
Georgiadi, E. (2019). Functions of the False Self
Georgiadi, E. (2020). Unbiased Processing: Pathways To Self-Awareness
Georgiadi, E. (2020). How to overcome fear: pathways to fulfillment, and success
Georgiadi, E. (2020). Authenticity: Pathways to better Decision Making and Personal Development
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Elissavet Georgiadi. Music Therapist, Mental Health Professional (PgDipMT, GSMD – City University)
