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Inspiring quotes: Deepak Chopra

Today we present and analyze an inspiring quote by Deepak Chopra. It is also a tricky one.

“If you want something, give it”.

Here is an example: if you are looking for honesty among people, you cannot yourself be dishonest, because those who are honest, and value honesty, will most probably detect it and they will withdraw. Why would an honest person want to relate to a dishonest one? Thus, you will not be surrounded by honest people anymore, and if you are, most probably it will be temporary, or superficial. Likewise, if you cannot be a good friend, (e.g. using other people, letting your friends down, etc), then someone who values friendship in their life, will withdraw, too. Thus, we miss the opportunity of enjoying a deeper connection with another human being. Stripped from goodness and friendship we may end up in negativity and loneliness, or with people who are using us too.

PS. Some people do not mind compromising, and this is also acceptable, as long as it is their conscious choice. Usually, if it is not a conscious one, it causes a lot of pain.

Food for thought

It seems to be important to be aware of our giving becoming a strategy. In some (rare) cases, it might not cause any problems. But, especially in matters related to the heart and significant others, it may be contradictory to give to get back. We believe that giving has to come from within, naturally, not from an “expecting” mind. It cannot be a “practice”. It cannot be a “pattern”, otherwise, its deeper meaning and greatness are being canceled.

TIP: Would you give if you knew that you would get nothing in return? Use the question as a screening one. If you think about it, in case the answer is positive, you will be never hurt again. 

Note

Nobody is perfect. Most of us, are trying to find our way to a more harmonious and happy life. Mistakes may happen when we do not know what we really want, or even if we do know, we have not yet defined, and understand its meaning. Some other times, our cynicism, keeps us trapped in a “suspiciousness mode”. Or we are not yet strong enough, psychologically wise. We fear that we will be taken advantage of by others. Or, as we mentioned above, we give, but with a secret expectation to be appreciated or take back.  Therefore, we think that we are giving (e.g., love, honesty, money, etc.), where, deep down, we do not. With that, also comes a great disappointment, and heartbreak, because we have “invested” in doing things “right”. But life proves us wrong. In these cases, searching for the true meaning of what we are looking for in life, and gaining the strength to embody it, could become a priority, and could help us enjoy inner freedom and real confidence. 

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Elissavet Georgiadis (Mental Health Professional – PgDipMT, GSMD – City University)