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Love is…

Embrace love by embodying some of these ideas

Love…“fashionable” usage in our days, yet, unfortunately, quite often, with no feasible meaning and application.

We, humans, are obsessed with the notion of love. We are desperately looking for it since the day we are born.

Nevertheless, many of us are more confused than ever about what it means, how it is defined, and how it is expressed. Even within our families and relationships and with the people that matter most to us. 

Example:

Why do parents, who without a doubt love their children deeply, and care about them the most, respond in an unloving and sometimes cruel way to them? Disapproving (secretly or not), insulting, comparing, criticizing, humiliating, threatening, mocking, letting down, and even worse…using them?

In many cases, this is also the way of lovers, friends, companions, and husbands/spouses

SHARE LV introduces the “Love is…” series. Short, awakening ideas, thoughts, and questions, that may help us understand in a meaningful way what the components of love may be, as well as how we “learn” and feel what love is…

Today, we present one of these ideas through the video extract below. It is based on the early life experiences of Gianni Versace and offers a beautiful, tangible example of love, emotional understanding, and courage. (Click on the link to watch the video):

Love is …

Analysis

Love: a nurturing power

Love seems to be a creative power because undoubtedly, it makes us feel good. When we receive love, we feel contained, not wounded, and consequently destructed.

Non-love hurts. Non-love is often experienced as a form of cruelty and contributes to feelings of worthlessness, desperation, and loneliness.

Love, more than anything, seem to arm us with courage, empower us. Through love, we learn not to quit. Therefore love provides us with the safe space needed to flourish. When we feel loved, there is no fear…no fear of rejection, punishment, or abandonment. We are allowed to be ourselves.

Food for thought

• What is the role of personal development and self-confidence, in the way we express or not our feelings of love?

• In a similar fashion, what is the role of knowledge and understanding? What do we know about basic human needs? The role of misconceptions, and false beliefs, in healthy child development and relationships.

• How do we manage and balance boundaries and love?

• Are personal interests, and love compatible? How can we distinguish one from another in other people’s behavior?

• Can a newborn baby “sense” feelings of love?

• Can we be instructed to “feel” or “express” love?

• Can we learn how to love, and if yes what is the way?

• When in adulthood, does it help to demand love, and if not, what can we do?

• So, we grew up in unfavorable conditions. What can we do now?

• How does the way we answer these questions change our perspective regarding relationships and thus our behavior?

Stay tuned. More articles on this vital for us humans topic will follow.

Related articles on SHARE LV

Georgiadi, E. (2018). Caring: a creative power

Georgiadi, E. (2018). Love: strong feelings of affection

Georgiadi, E. (2020). Kindness: Its role in psychological resilience and mental health

Quotes About Love is

Love is not to be purchased, and affection has no price. St Jerome

Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend. Martin Luther King. Jr

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Aristotle

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Elissavet Georgiadis (Music Therapist/Mental Health Professional. PgDipMT, GSMD – City University)